I knew I shouldn’t look outside. I knew it would just make me feel worse. A part of me wanted to see what I was missing, another part wanted to climb in bed, pull the covers over my head and forget about the whole thing.
I was 14 and I was the only girl in my friend group who had been left off the list for the party going on just two doors down from my house. Too curious to resist seeing what I was missing, I pulled back the curtain in my bedroom window and pressed my face to the glass. Fresh faced girls with wide smiles giggled happily as they piled out of their moms’ shiny cars and headed up the sidewalk to my neighbor’s front door. Their innocent smiles were daggers to my isolated heart. Their girlie chatter a reminder of the hollow quiet where I stood watching as an outsider, longing to be an insider. Sure, there were “reasons” I wasn’t invited: we were moving in just a few weeks and this party was for girls who were part of a school club which I would no longer be attending.
There are always “reasons” we get left out or left behind or passed over. But reasons don’t make rejection feel any better. Reasons may soothe our mind but rejection is felt in the heart.
To make matters worse, my family’s move meant leaving the state and with it, my childhood best friend. The sting of loneliness I felt that evening would be a companion for many months to come. There was simply no way around it. I had to walk through it.
Every one of us has had moments like this. Seasons of loneliness. Periods of isolation. Heartbreaking rejection. Some, much more life-altering than others.
Someone else got the job.
Someone else got the invitation.
Someone else make the team.
Someone else got the ring.
Someone else celebrated.
You cried.
If you’re a mom, your child has experienced this, too. In some ways it’s more heart wrenching to witness a loved one’s rejection than wrestle with your own.
For some, rejection becomes defining, but for others, rejection becomes refining.
It’s all in how we deal with it.
Which is why I’m so excited to give away a free copy of my friend, Lysa Terkeurst’s new book, Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out or Lonely. I’ve been reading the book and I love it. You will, too.
Simply leave a comment for a chance to win your free copy of Uninvited. As an added bonus, tell a friend. All new subscribers to my blog/newsletter will receive an additional chance to win. Because, hey, everyone’s invited to join us here! It’s a win all the way around!
Appreciate your biblical wisdom and insight. Thanks Donna!
Wow! Thanks for this, as always so timely. My 14 year old daughter has shared with me awhile the times she’s felt rejected. I am happy to say it’s refining her. I thank God for this, I see Him developing her character.
I would love to receive a copy of the book! Thank you
I have felt so much rejection in my life. And know as a mother to think my child has to go through this as well bring tears to my eyes. She’s now only 4 and I don’t know how I will be able to handle this… God will have to help me. I wish I could keep her in a glass box away from the pain of this world.
This seems like my story currently. Would lovers read it.
??????? God is working!!
Thank you Donna for the nice message. I am commenting because I hope to win a copy of Lysa Kerhaust’s book entitled UnInvited.
Thanks for this post! I always love your insights.
I’ve heard amazing things about this book! Would love to read it.
I would love to read her book!
This hits close to home!
I am planning to join in on this and would love a copy of this. I know several young girls that could use a copy of this book. Would give this to them.
I’d love the book!
My sister was just telling me about this book the other day, and how transformative it is. Sounds like a book everyone needs to read because, who hasn’t experienced rejection in some form?
A new book is a great prize!
this book looks like a book every mom should read! It’s so hard to know how to help your children navigate through this! Thanks for sharing.
Interesting how God places the right person in your path, with the most appropriate resources at the most appropriate time. Well He’s done it again….just had a conversation with someone else on this stream about rejection and where it tends to lead those who have been rejected. This book would be great to open the gates for discussion around rejection and helping those feeling rejected to change their perspective. Thanks for the opportunity!!
What any incredibly awesome topic! You completely forget You Are Loved ETERNALLY when you are going through the temporary sting of this world’s rejection. My daughter is struggling with this at the moment. I would Love to read it and share it with my family. Looks like I will have to add this book to my list to pick up if I don’t win a copy. Thank you
Thanks for your heartfelt comment about this book, I would love to read it! I have felt the sting of being the one left out so many times in my life, and my daughters seem to have the same “flaw” (whatever it is!). Even if I don’t win, I’ll probably buy a copy.
You are still one of my fav all time speakers. Some friends of mine are getting ready to start a bible study with this book!
You are so sweet! Thank you 🙂
I would love to win a copy of this book. The nature of the book is hitting a little too close to home right now. I would love to have some biblical guidance on how to help my daughters through this time in their lives and to help heal my past wounds from being uninvited and left out.
This would be an awesome book to read. Even as an adult I am being rejected by my siblings I recently saw Donna in Bismarck ND and purchased one of her books which I am currently reading
You’re so right, Donna–we’ve probably all felt left out, unappreciated or unloved at some point. Thanks for making the book a give-away!
I would love to read this book! Every snippet I have read from it resonates with me so far.
I would love to read this book. Thank you for your inspiring words. I look forward to my emails from you. God bless jyou.
I love Lysa Terkeurst! She always makes me laugh! And cry and all sorts of other emotions? This book looks awesome?? I would love to have it. ?
Something we can all relate to❤️
I would love to win a copy of this book. With two children entering their teen years, I can’t think of a better time to read Lysa’s book.
Live reading your blog. Thank you for all you do to encourage us!
This is something I have experienced in the past and I know it’s God’s way shaping me. Would love to read the book for God’s message.
Thanks for sharing this Donna. I have watched my son go through this and how it has affected him in his young adult years. The author is right, we have all experienced this. I would love to read her book! Thanks for the chance to do just that.
Thank you for this opportunity. This is a topic all of us can relate to. For me personally I feel the loneliness of not having a close girlfriend to connect with and have as a best friend. Praying for that…
Thanks for adding your name, Anokina. I just prayed for you to develop a close friend. You are not alone in your need for friendship! 🙂
I would love to receive a copy of the book! Thank you
I have the study guide and would love a copy of this book to accompany it.
What an honor!