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I knew I shouldn’t look outside.  I knew it would just make me feel worse.  A part of me wanted to see what I was missing, another part wanted to climb in bed, pull the covers over my head and forget about the whole thing.

I was 14 and I was the only girl in my friend group who had been left off the list for the party going on just two doors down from my house. Too curious to resist seeing what  I was missing, I pulled back the curtain in my bedroom window and pressed my face to the glass. Fresh faced girls with wide smiles giggled happily as they piled out of their moms’ shiny cars and headed up the sidewalk to my neighbor’s front door. Their innocent smiles were daggers to my isolated heart. Their girlie chatter a reminder of  the hollow quiet where I stood watching as an outsider, longing to be an insider. Sure, there were “reasons” I wasn’t invited:  we were moving in just a few weeks and this party was for girls who were part of a school club which I would no longer be attending.

There are always “reasons” we get left out or left behind or passed over.  But reasons don’t make rejection feel any better.  Reasons may soothe our mind but rejection is felt in the heart.

To make matters worse, my family’s move meant leaving the state and with it, my childhood best friend. The sting of loneliness I felt that evening would be a companion for many months to come. There was simply no way around it. I had to walk through it.

Every one of us has had moments like this.  Seasons of loneliness. Periods of isolation. Heartbreaking rejection.  Some, much more life-altering than others.

Someone else got the job.

Someone else got the invitation.

Someone else make the team.

Someone else got the ring.

Someone else celebrated.

You cried.

If you’re a mom, your child has experienced this, too. In some ways it’s more heart wrenching to witness a loved one’s rejection than wrestle with your own.

For some, rejection becomes defining, but for others, rejection becomes refining.

It’s all in how we deal with it.

Which is why I’m so excited to give away a free copy of my friend, Lysa Terkeurst’s new book, Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out or Lonely. I’ve been reading the book and I love it.  You will, too.

Simply leave a comment for a chance to win your free copy of Uninvited.  As an added bonus, tell a friend. All new subscribers to my blog/newsletter will receive an additional chance to win. Because, hey, everyone’s invited to join us here! It’s a win all the way around!


Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely by [TerKeurst, Lysa]


More than a Bible teacher, Donna is a self-described Bible explainer. A colorful storyteller who combines Biblical truth with real-life anecdotes, her messages not only help listeners understand God’s Word, but most important, grasp how to live it out in real life.


  • Cathy Eusey says:

    Appreciate your biblical wisdom and insight. Thanks Donna!

  • Jinda says:

    Wow! Thanks for this, as always so timely. My 14 year old daughter has shared with me awhile the times she’s felt rejected. I am happy to say it’s refining her. I thank God for this, I see Him developing her character.

  • Carlotta Broeckel says:

    I would love to receive a copy of the book! Thank you

  • Chantelle Prinsloo says:

    I have felt so much rejection in my life. And know as a mother to think my child has to go through this as well bring tears to my eyes. She’s now only 4 and I don’t know how I will be able to handle this… God will have to help me. I wish I could keep her in a glass box away from the pain of this world.

  • Yolanda Noyes says:

    This seems like my story currently. Would lovers read it.

  • Diane Fritz says:

    Thank you Donna for the nice message. I am commenting because I hope to win a copy of Lysa Kerhaust’s book entitled UnInvited.

  • Marisa Whitaker says:

    Thanks for this post! I always love your insights.

  • Jennifer Jahn says:

    I’ve heard amazing things about this book! Would love to read it.

  • Beckie says:

    I would love to read her book!

  • Lori says:

    This hits close to home!

  • Deborah says:

    I am planning to join in on this and would love a copy of this. I know several young girls that could use a copy of this book. Would give this to them.

  • Katie says:

    I’d love the book!

  • Jen F says:

    My sister was just telling me about this book the other day, and how transformative it is. Sounds like a book everyone needs to read because, who hasn’t experienced rejection in some form?

  • Carol says:

    A new book is a great prize!

  • shannon says:

    this book looks like a book every mom should read! It’s so hard to know how to help your children navigate through this! Thanks for sharing.

  • Monique Brooks says:

    Interesting how God places the right person in your path, with the most appropriate resources at the most appropriate time. Well He’s done it again….just had a conversation with someone else on this stream about rejection and where it tends to lead those who have been rejected. This book would be great to open the gates for discussion around rejection and helping those feeling rejected to change their perspective. Thanks for the opportunity!!

  • Kerry says:

    What any incredibly awesome topic! You completely forget You Are Loved ETERNALLY when you are going through the temporary sting of this world’s rejection. My daughter is struggling with this at the moment. I would Love to read it and share it with my family. Looks like I will have to add this book to my list to pick up if I don’t win a copy. Thank you

  • Linda Reno says:

    Thanks for your heartfelt comment about this book, I would love to read it! I have felt the sting of being the one left out so many times in my life, and my daughters seem to have the same “flaw” (whatever it is!). Even if I don’t win, I’ll probably buy a copy.

  • Sandra says:

    You are still one of my fav all time speakers. Some friends of mine are getting ready to start a bible study with this book!

  • Steffan says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book. The nature of the book is hitting a little too close to home right now. I would love to have some biblical guidance on how to help my daughters through this time in their lives and to help heal my past wounds from being uninvited and left out.

  • Darla McArthur says:

    This would be an awesome book to read. Even as an adult I am being rejected by my siblings I recently saw Donna in Bismarck ND and purchased one of her books which I am currently reading

  • Ann Thrash-Trumbo says:

    You’re so right, Donna–we’ve probably all felt left out, unappreciated or unloved at some point. Thanks for making the book a give-away!

  • Cynthia says:

    I would love to read this book! Every snippet I have read from it resonates with me so far.

  • Gloria Avila says:

    I would love to read this book. Thank you for your inspiring words. I look forward to my emails from you. God bless jyou.

  • Krista Boston says:

    I love Lysa Terkeurst! She always makes me laugh! And cry and all sorts of other emotions? This book looks awesome?? I would love to have it. ?

  • Penny Sloan says:

    Something we can all relate to❤️

  • Amy says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book. With two children entering their teen years, I can’t think of a better time to read Lysa’s book.

  • René Hancock says:

    Live reading your blog. Thank you for all you do to encourage us!

  • Ines says:

    This is something I have experienced in the past and I know it’s God’s way shaping me. Would love to read the book for God’s message.

  • Angie Gallagher says:

    Thanks for sharing this Donna. I have watched my son go through this and how it has affected him in his young adult years. The author is right, we have all experienced this. I would love to read her book! Thanks for the chance to do just that.

  • Anokina Shahbaz says:

    Thank you for this opportunity. This is a topic all of us can relate to. For me personally I feel the loneliness of not having a close girlfriend to connect with and have as a best friend. Praying for that…

  • Nikkole says:

    I would love to receive a copy of the book! Thank you

  • Valina Rackley says:

    I have the study guide and would love a copy of this book to accompany it.

    What an honor!