“What should I have done differently?”
It was an odd question, mainly because it came from my mother–a terrific mom in every respect. Her question got me thinking: why do those who are the best moms worry most they are not?
If I had a dime for every woman I’ve heard express some form of mom guilt I’d be a very rich woman. Of course, there are mothers who should have remorse for their lack of good parenting, but sadly, these moms rarely admit it.
Instead, it’s a good mom who most often worries that she’s a bad mom. Perhaps it’s because good moms love so deeply, and care so passionately, they wonder if what they do–or what they did–is enough.
But how do you measure “enough?”
Proverbs 31 says,
28 Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her:
29 “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all!”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
31 Reward her for all she has done.
Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.
Maybe it’s impossible for a mom to know if she loved enough, cared enough, encouraged enough, shared enough, provided enough, and guided enough, unless her family tells her.
What do moms really need for Mother’s Day?
Simply this: the knowledge that what they did, and what they do day, after day, after day, is enough.
If you are blessed with a good mom why not tell her what she did was enough?
And if you know a good mom–whether she is your mom or not–tell her, too.
In its purest form, Mother’s Day is our opportunity to stand and bless the women who blessed us.
You are loved (and you’re enough!),
Donna
P.S. If you’re reading this after Mother’s Day, remember: any day is a great day to bless a woman who has blessed you!
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